LAFABIANA, Barbara "Joan"

Peacefully at Hillsdale Estates in Oshawa on Tuesday, August 30th, 2022 in her 87th year, with her children by her side.  Born in Oshawa to the late Vera and Raymond Pettitt.  Loving wife of 50 years to her late husband Leonardo.  Devoted and caring mother of Elisabeth and her husband Shawn of Tennessee and Mike and his wife Karen of Oshawa.  Adored Grandma to Téa and Keira.  Cherished Aunt of Grace Dasberg.  Dearest friend to Kathy Ranstead and the late Marjorie Diskey.  Sister of Sandra Large, Gary Pettitt and the late Don, Keith and James Pettitt.  A special thanks to her dear friend and caregiver Ruby Rose Olay.  Her love and kindness towards Joan and the family will never be forgotten.  Thank you to the staff of Hillsdale Estates for their care and compassion.  Joan will be remembered for her smile and exuberant laugh by all who have met her.  A Celebration of Joan’s life will be held at a later date.  Arrangements entrusted to McINTOSH-ANDERSON-KELLAM FUNERAL HOME LTD., 152 King St. E., Oshawa (905-433-5558).  In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in memory of Joan to the Alzheimer Society of Canada. 

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  • Sep 3, 2022

    Kathy Ranstead
    What a beautiful photo of Joan!  
    Joan and I were friends for over 50 years, starting when Elisabeth was just a toddler, sharing a playpen with Carole Ann.  A kind, generous soul, she would often arrive bearing thoughtful gifts: a beautiful pair of towels to adorn the bathroom; hot soup when I was ill; a roast of beef when I was grieving.  We often talked on the telephone, sharing the joys, trials and tribulations of everyday living.  
    Joan loved a party and was the life of the party: her Canada Day celebrations were legendary. She loved to laugh and her laughter was contagious. 
    Joan was a devoted mother to Elisabeth and Mike, a loving wife to Leo, a very proud grandma and a special friend to me, supportive and present at all memorable occasions: a very important part of my life.  I will miss you, dear friend.  May you rest in peace.  
    Sincere condolences to all from Kathy, Tom, Sue, Sharon and Carole Ann.      
  • Sep 5, 2022

    Debra MacMillan and Family
    It’s hard to imagine a photo exists of Joan without that beautiful smile of hers lighting up the room.  A light that she shares once again with her Leo in Heaven.  Oh, the joy they must feel to be together again!   
    May your hearts be full of many wonderful memories that will help you through this very difficult loss.  
    With deepest condolences to you and your families, Elisabeth and Michael,
    Debra, Tracey, Bruce, Merle and Franklyn MacMillan.
  • Sep 6, 2022

    The Diskey Family
    Dear Elizabeth & Michael,
    We are so sorry to hear of your moms passing. Our mom (Marge) & Joan were great friends for many, many years. We’re sure they are having some good laughs catching up in heaven!! Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time. May your mom Rest In Peace.
    The Diskey Family.

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