HARMER, David Harold Milton

Harmer, David Harold Milton, passed away peacefully at Lakeridge Health, Oshawa, on January 15, 2021 in his 87th year.  Beloved husband for 58 years of Marlene (née Peel).  Devoted father of John (Susey), Jim (Kelli) and Janice (Kristopher) Sharpe.  Proud grandfather of nine grandchildren; Tristan, Daniel, Ethan, Chloe, Mark, Andrew and Matthew Harmer, Ryan and Kate Sharpe.  He is survived by two sisters; Shirley Masselli and Elizabeth (Betty) Lea and sister-in-law Marion Harmer.  Predeceased by his parents William and Gladys Harmer, sister Lorraine (George) Pearce, brothers Arthur (Barbara) Harmer and Kenneth Harmer and brothers-in-law Beni Masselli and William Lea.  He will be sadly missed by nephews, nieces, extended family and friends.  David enjoyed a career as an elementary teacher with the Durham District School Board.  He took great pride in his collection of Canadian antiques and their history.  He was interested in music, drama, photography, outdoor activities, including time at the lake.  He took great pleasure in family events and special time with the grandchildren.  A private family service will take place at Kingsview United Church, Oshawa, on Thursday, January 21, 2021.  Interment at St. James Cemetery, Toronto, will follow the service.  If desired, memorial donations may be made to the Heart and Stroke Foundation or a charity of your choice through the McINTOSH-ANDERSON-KELLAM FUNERAL HOME LTD., 152 King St. E., Oshawa (905-433-5558).

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  • Jan 17, 2021

    Tina Derry
    So sad and sorry to hear of Mr. Harness passing!! He was one of my teachers 1974/75. He had such a positive impact on my learning! He was a wonderful man and teacher! Many blessings to his family for strength at this sad time!
  • Jan 17, 2021

    Caroline Rendall (Mossey)
    I have fond memories of Mr. Harmer working with us on The Forest Prince at Ridgeway (circa 1980).  Mr. Harmer was creative and good-humoured.  My condolences to his family.
  • Jan 17, 2021

    Judy Owen-Zarowny
    I was very sad to hear of Mr Harmers passing.
    He was a great teacher mentor and friend
    His time spent dropping in at the Owen house for a dessert and some laughs and jokes 
    Will always be a part of my fondest memories of Dave
    I am so sorry for your loss of your husband father and grandfather
    he will be missed but not forgotten 
    Judy Owen Zarowny
  • Jan 17, 2021

    James Ridge
    My condolences to the Harmer family.
    He was one of my teachers at Ridgeway, and I remember him fondly. He was particularly patient with me, which I have always appreciated. He made a difference in my life, and I know many others. 
    My thoughts are with you at this very difficult time. 
  • Jan 17, 2021

    Marj (Owen) Nicholson
    Remember great times in Dave’s class in grade 5!!  Some may remember him hiding a cat in the room!!  Playing road hockey with him... he would bring in autographs of famous people... Don Rickles is one I remember 
    ....he made school fun!!  RIP Dave!!
    My thoughts and prayers to the family
    Marj (Owen) Nicholson 
  • Jan 17, 2021

    Janice (Owen) Shaw
    Dave was my grade 5 teacher at Woodcrest Public School in 1963, and a favorite memory was Scraps the cat that jumped through the open window and the kittens born in the scrap box in coat closet. A wonderful teacher who was kind, caring and made learning fun.  He got to know our family through visits with my parents, usually on his lunch hour from school...lots of lemon pie and laughs. In 1973 he was the master of ceremonies at my wedding and I still have the metal horseshoe he gave us for good luck. To Marlene, John, Jimmy and Janice and families...very sorry for the loss of Dave, your husband, father, father in law and grandfather.  May cherished memories bring you moments of comfort.
    In sympathy
    Janice Shaw
  • Jan 17, 2021

    Suier Richardson
    So sorry for your loss, I always enjoyed Dave's stories and his charming personality, I often called him and Ken the charming Harmers.  He brought joy and laughter to everyone who knew him. My thoughts and prayers are with the family
  • Jan 18, 2021

    Dear Janice & Chris, Kelly & Jim, Marlene and the rest of the family,
     The very first time I walked into the Harmer family home I had this overwhelming feeling of love! I had never met Parents that could make you feel instantly like part of the family. Your childhood home felt like walking into a museum of history that I would have paid an admission to spend time! Your dad was so much fun and he has passed his wonderful qualities on to his children and their family! I will forever be grateful that I had the pleasure to know this amazing man and his family.
    My sincere condolences for your loss. Although the time I spent with him was brief I adored him! I can’t even imagine the amount of people that he had a positive effect on. 
    He will be fondly remembered.
    Love always,
    Bettyanne xo 
  • Jan 18, 2021

    Jennifer Sutton
    Our whole family is very sorry to hear of your loss. David was a very warm and fascinating person to talk with. I remember him being very proud to talk about his garden. He was always very welcoming to everyone, even having our surprise shower at his home. I know your family will miss him greatly but will have thousands of happy memories of him. Our thoughts are with you all at this time.
    Jennifer, Christopher, Terra, Cyan and Orion Sutton
  • Jan 18, 2021

    Pascale Matar
    My condolences to the Harmer Family. May you always hold fond memories of his life with you. 
    Pascale Matar
  • Jan 18, 2021

    Mel Bennett
    I'm sorry to hear of David's passing. You and your family are in my thoughts.
  • Jan 18, 2021

    thelma owen
    My  deepest  sympathy  to  all the  family. I have so many  wonderful
    memories  of  Dave especially with  my  girls Taking them ice skating
    at your  home in Bowmanville and hot chocolate  Taking them to  Toronto
    to see his sister  perform Many times  he  came     at  noon at  lunch  hour  for  his  usual  lemon  pie    and  cookies. Many year ago he  took
    our  family  to his parents  who  I  knew   very  well  to see color  T V
    which is parents  just  got. He was  master of  ceremonies  at my 
    daughters  wedding  He was   such a  wonderful  kind  man and 
    very  much loved by   my  family. We  had  many  happy  times  with him
    He  will be  fondly  remembered
    Thelma Owen
  • Jan 18, 2021

    Shanelle Charles
    My sincerest condolences to you and the family, John. May you all be comforted by the love that surrounds you.  
  • Jan 18, 2021

    Laurier Brown
    Please accept my sincere condolences. I'm sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
  • Jan 18, 2021

    Kathleen A. Jackson
    I am very saddened to learn of Mr. Harmer's passing. My most sincere condolences to the Harmer family.
  • Jan 18, 2021

    Brad Whitehouse
    John, my deepest sympathies to you and the Harmer Family. My thoughts are with you during this difficult time.
  • Jan 18, 2021

    Briony Smith
    Sorry to hear about your dad, John--he looks like he led an interesting life! 
  • Jan 18, 2021

    Elaine Marcotte
    So sorry for your loss, John. Thinking of you during this difficult time.
  • Jan 18, 2021

    Teresa Van Veghel (Crompton)
    Deepest sympathies go out to the Harmer family. We were neighbours for a number of years and will remember them with fondness. "Mr. Harmer", as we knew him as kids, was always friendly and kind to our family (even after listening to the puck hit our garage door for the 100th time). He was an interesting person and an animated speaker. We remember watching him, on many occasions, tending to his garden through our "shared hedge" and are truly sorry for your loss - He certainly was a good man.
  • Jan 18, 2021

    Lee Hubbell
    My heartfelt condolences to the Harmer Family. I remember him as one of my favourite teachers at Ridgeway. A wonderful person with a wonderful sense of humour. He will be truly my missed. 
  • Jan 18, 2021

    Michelle Drake (Gill)
    Sincere sympathy to the family from the Gill family.
  • Jan 19, 2021

    Glenn Lomas
    I was so sad to hear of Dave's passing. He was a wonderful man. 
  • Jan 19, 2021

    Melissa Furdal
    My deepest condolences on your loss John. Wishing you and your family strength during this difficult time. May you find comfort in loving memories.
  • Jan 19, 2021

    Carolyn Treadgold
    Dear Harmer Family
    I am saddened to hear of Dave's passing. I have fond memories of his history classes at Ridgeway, being in the musicals he directed, and of babysitting John, Jim and Janice and teaching the boys piano lessons. I am thinking of you all.
    Carolyn (Whitbread) Treadgold
  • Jan 19, 2021

    Hanh Vo
    I am so sorry for your loss, John. My deepest condolences to you and your family.
  • Jan 19, 2021

    Valentina Pcenicni-Smith
    Mr. Harmer was a teacher of mine at Ridgeway. I believe he taught History and made it fun to learn. I still enjoy all facets of History as well as other subjects and continue to learn throughout my lifetime. He had a knack of making it interesting. Thanks Mr Harmer!
    My deepest sympathy during this time of great pain to all family and friends and colleagues and all who knew him.
  • Jan 20, 2021

    Anna and Lucio Costantino
    Janice and family, 
    May the loving memories of your dad give you comfort and peace
  • Jan 20, 2021

    Rhonda Nicholson
    Dear Harmer family, Words are difficult at the time of loss but hopefully all the wonderful tributes to such an amazing man will bring you all some comfort. My thoughts are with you. “ To Live in the Hearts of Those We Love is Not to Die,”
  • Jan 21, 2021

    Joe and Donna Krasnaj
     Dear Marlene and Family
    Donna and I were very saddened to hear that Dave had passed. He was a unique person who always made people around him feel special. We will never forget the Mock Wedding he gave us upon our engagement. He always had a little smile or a word of cheer when we met. Our deepist sympathy to all the family.
  • Jan 21, 2021

    Kathy Ranstead
    Dear Marlene, 
    Tom and I were so very sorry to hear of Dave's passing. We owe a debt of gratitude to Helen and Stan for introducing us to you and Dave. Right from the first time we met we felt a special kinship with you both. Dave was a man who genuinely loved his fellowman and always made one feel so comfortable in his presence.  He had a wonderful sense of humour and was a born story teller. We always looked forward to renewing our acquaintance with you both whenever we were invited to one of Helen and Stan's parties!  You complimented one another so well and were the other half of a perfect pair.  You will miss him so much, I know, as will your children and grandchildren.  He was a wonderful friend, husband, father and grandfather. 
    My daughter, Carole Ann also sends her sincere condolences to you, John and family. 
    With much love and affection, Tom Corby and Kathy Ranstead
  • Jan 21, 2021

    Susan ( Kerr) Crase
    Dear Marlene and the whole family-
    Very sorry today to hear of David’ s passing.  My warm memories of Dave go back to when he was on staff at Ridgeway Public School in the  early ‘70s and I attended there for grade 7 and 8.   I remember his great sense of humour and his wonderful booming voice.  Other great memories of his production of The Forest Prince in which Dave coached me at 13  to play an old stooped woman with a cane, Mother Vanya.  Dave had a very big heart and was excellent in helping the development of many young people who he brought out the best in as an educator.  Very sorry for your loss.  God bless David 
  • Jan 21, 2021

    Marlene Owen
    Marlene and family
    Please accept my most sincere condolences at this most difficult time.I’ll never forget how kind you were by letting me park on your driveway so many years ago. I’ll never forget Dave’s cheerful personality and warm smile.Boyh of you were such kind individuals. May Dave Rest In Peace and May God give all of you the strength to navigate the future.
    Blessings for all, Marlene Owen
  • Jan 22, 2021

    Noam Lamdan
    My deepest condolences to you and your family, John. May your sweet memories, which you've shared with me through your photos from time to time, offer you some comfort.
    Love, Noam
  • Jan 22, 2021

    Jazz Batish
    Dear Jim, 
    My heartfelt condolences to you and your family, Jim. May your father rest in peace. I wish you all the love and strength to get through this difficult time. 
    Take care,
  • Jan 22, 2021

    Nidhi Joshi
    Dear Jim,
    When I was reading above condolences, each memory of Mr. Dave Harmer made me realize source of you being so fun & caring. Our condolences for you & Harmer family in this difficult time. I am grateful to have a friend/mentor like you.
    From Nidhi & Harsh Joshi
  • Jan 22, 2021

    Ramon Virk
    My sincerest sympathies go out to you Jim and your family.  I know your family and this world has lost a great man in your father.  May he rest in peace. 
  • Jan 25, 2021

    Al Kershaw
    Dave was a unique man, human being, father, grandfather, teacher, co-worker and friend.  It was my privilege to be his co-worker and especially his friend.  He left an imprint on me professionally and as a human.  
    His support of his students was of the highest quality and they loved him for it.  His sense of humanity paved the way for his  students to be successful.
    His smile and humour will live with me forever.  Thanks, Dave, for sharing part of your life with me.

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