MCRAE, Mary G.

Mary (nee O'Neill) passed away peacefully with her beloved husband John, of 57 years, by her side.  She passed on Sunday, April 19, 2020, at the age of 81, while at Lakeridge Health in Oshawa.

Loved and devoted mother of Marg, Dave and Rick (Jane) and the proud and loving Grandma of Josh, Lindsey, Jake and Jairus.  Daughter of the late John and Marie O'Neill, and the dear sister of Al O'Neill (Shirley), Kathy Hermer (George; dec.) and Jim O'Neill (Patrick Conlon; dec.).  Predeceased by her brother Paul and wife Lillian O'Neill.  Beloved sister-in-law of Duncan (Jean; dec.), Cathy Allen (Bill; dec.), Theresa Millett (Max) and Angus (dec.).  Aunt to many nieces and nephews.

Mary had a positive impact on the lives of many - from her childhood in Lindsay to nurses training at St. Joseph's Hospital in Peterborough, from her work at the Oshawa Clinic to pool parties on Keewatin, from Buckhorn Lake to the ski hills and campgrounds of retirement, family and friends were always around and always welcome.

However, life was not always easy, Mom beat cancer and battled Parkinson's, occasionally showing it "who was boss" - getting up from her chair and shuffling off, returning a few moments later with a muffin or cookie, a glance at the idle walker as she sat.  

Ultimately Parkinson's played a part, forcing her to be a spectator, taking her freedom, but not her will.  She will be remembered for her devotion to family, for her optimism and for her perseverance. 

Arrangements entrusted to McINTOSH-ANDERSON-KELLAM FUNERAL HOME LTD., 152 King St. E., Oshawa, ON (905-433-5558).  A Celebration of Life will be held at a future date.  Donations in memory of Mary to Parkinson Canada would be appreciated.  In light of the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic we encourage relatives and friends to express their sympathies and condolences online at


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  • Apr 21, 2020

    Bernadette and Rick Peters
    We are so sorry for your loss! She was a woman of strength and humour! Beautiful photo of her smiling! This is how we will remember her! God Bless Uncle John and family! 
  • Apr 21, 2020

    Shannon Hermer Millar
    Aunt Mary, you are already missed !  I will miss our chats more than I can express.   Rest well warrior, you deserve it .
     Much love  
    Shannon Kevin and Marcus 
  • Apr 21, 2020

     So Sorry to hear of Marys' passing. I worked with Mary for many years at the Oshawa Clinic and she would join ''The Oshawa Clinic Ladies'' every Dec at the Golf club for our Christmas outing !Indeed She was a grand lady and I was so very happy to call her a friend.Enjoy your new journey Mary !
    ,,,,,,,,,,,,,God Bless you John and your family.  Pat Weales.
  • Apr 21, 2020

    Solange Racine
    I wish to express our deepest and sinceres  condolences  to you John and your family.
    God bless you all.
    Solange & Rudy Racine
  • Apr 21, 2020

    Lula June Brough
    We're so very sorry for your loss. Mary was a good friend and she will be deeply missed.
    Lula June Brough and Family
  • Apr 21, 2020

    Marnie Haslam
    Dear Dave and Family, I was so sad to find out that your mum had passed away. She was a wonderful woman and a great mum, I know how much you all loved her. She was a force to be reckoned with and will most certainly never be forgotten. I am sorry that your family are unable to join together at this time to celebrate her life. Please accept my love and deepest sympathies, thinking of Mary up in heaven keeping the other angels on their toes. Marnie xo
  • Apr 21, 2020

    John and Janet Kraan
    Dear John and family
    We want to offer our condolences on Mary’s passing.
    May she Rest In Peace.
    Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time.
  • Apr 21, 2020

    Pamela Baker-Schaal
    Dear Mr.McRae and family. I am so sorry for the loss of a wonderful wife and mother. I have very fond memories of Mrs.McRae. She was a wonderful neighbor and friend. It was because of her that I chose to follow my path into health care. I to becoming a RPN. I understand how much you will miss her,just as I still miss my dad 16 years later. May your memories and the love you have for each other comfort you and keep at this time. I will be thinking of you all and praying for you until the time when we can all be together again to celebrate the life of a truly magnificent women. With all the love in our hearts. Reta,Pam,Rudy,Joe,Melissa,Brutus,Jasmine and Bentley.   
  • Apr 21, 2020

    Moida Wheller
    My sincere condolences to John, Marg, Dave and Rick in the loss of Mary.  She had indomitable spirit fighting the diseases she suffered.  I admired her energy, still skiing while she had Parkinson’s.  I saw a lot of Dave and Rick while they were growing up on Keewatin and I know my son Tim still keeps in touch with them.  They were a terrible trio while they were growing up so I heard from Mary a lot at that time.  Also John and she used to walk past the house daily before they moved.
  • Apr 22, 2020

    Jack & Marian Brown
    Our condolences John to you Marg,Dave, Rick, Jane and all the grandchildren.Mary was good neighbour & friend.
  • Apr 22, 2020

    Barb and Peter northey
    We knew Mary for many years as our doctors nurse and then working together and retiring together. Our condolences to John and family and will keep you all in our prayers. RIP Mary.
  • Apr 22, 2020

    Barbara Leal
    Dear John, Marg, Dave, Rick and family,
    My deepest sympathy to you in hearing of Mary's  passing. I worked with Mary at the hospital and also beside her at the Clinic for many years.  She was a very caring, funny lady and I' m glad to have called her my friend.   Rest in Peace  Mary.
  • Apr 22, 2020

    Sandy & Marcus
    Dear Rick and Jane,
    Our heartfelt condolences to you and your family.  Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
    Sandy & Marcus
  • Apr 22, 2020

    Tracy and Dave Hill
    John, Marg, Dave and Rick
    We were saddened to hear that Mary has passed away and of her battle with Parkinson's.  She was a wonderful lady ... full of energy and spunk.  We have great memories of you all up at Buckhorn Lake, around the campfires and corn roasts.  
    Sending our condolences and virtual hugs, 
    Tracy (Ingram) and Dave Hill  
  • Apr 22, 2020

    Lori Keenan
    Those we love are never really gone - they have a cherished place in our hearts, where they will always be remembered for the kindness they showed, the love they shared and the happiness they brought. A Mother's love never ends...So sorry for your loss Marg & family.  
    Lori & Ken Keenan 
  • Apr 22, 2020

    Jane & Ashton McMaster
    John and family - - Jane and I were so sorry to see that Mary has died.  She was a wonderful person who we both enjoyed anytime we saw her.  She was always positive and happy and left us in good spirits.  She's been through some rough things and you've been there right along side supporting her through it all.  She gave an excellent allergy needle at the clinic and usually the jab was over before I realized it had happened as we were both involved is some amazing discussion.  We send our deepest sympathy and heart feelings to you and your family.  May God send you peace and strength as you all deal with Mary's loss.  I'm sure the angels have safely lifted her to heaven and that she'll be singing in the heavenly choir and looking down on us all.  Blessings, Jane and Ashton
  • Apr 22, 2020

    Owen and Lynn Dunstall
    Dear John and family
    It is with great sadness that we read the news of Mary's passing. The obituary certainly captures Mary's wonderful and smiling personality. You are all sure to miss her bright and cheery optimism. May you memories lighten your grief and sorrow at her passing.
    Sincerely, Owen and Lynn Dunstall
  • Apr 22, 2020

    Laurie Brough
    Dear John and family 
    Our heartfelt condolences to you at this time.
    Ted, Laurie and Shirley 
  • Apr 22, 2020

    Andy Tielemans
    Dear John,I am sorry for your loss..Regards,Andy Tielemans
  • Apr 24, 2020

    John & Linda Virgin
    John & family, at this difficult time our thoughts and prayers are with you.
  • Apr 24, 2020

    Marie and Don Kellett
    So sorry to hear that you have lost your best friend. Our thoughts are with you and the rest of the family. Please take care.
    Marie and Don
  • Apr 24, 2020

    Marg & family,
    My thoughts and prayers are with you all during this difficult time. May all the beautiful memories of your wife, mother and grandmother bring you peace. She will always be with you.
    Thinking of you all, and sending love.
    Jenna, Arlen & Luke 
  • Apr 24, 2020

    nancy smith
    John and family
    Sending heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I will cherish the memory of Mary and all the O'Neill family as the wonderful neighbours and friends I grew up with and wish I could be there for you all
    Nancy (Breault) Smith
  • Apr 24, 2020

    Lorna strong
    So sorry for your loss. Mary was a wonderful person. Thinking of whole family 
  • Apr 24, 2020

    Lynn Castellan
    To Marg and the rest of the family we offer our condolences to you all.  I remember your Mom as always smiling and full of energy.  I thought that your Mom & Dad were so sweet going for walks hand in hand. May your memories bring you comfort during this difficult time.
    Lynn & Pete Castellan.  
  • Apr 26, 2020

    Helen Guest
    John, Marg, Dave, Rick and Mary's grandchildren.
    I am very sorry to hear of Mary's passing. I am happy to have had Mary and all of you as neighbours when my family was growing up. Mary's strength and courage in her illnesses, her devotion to her family, her energy and hospitality were exceptional to see. I know that your memories of her will make you proud.
  • Apr 26, 2020

    Lorie McRae
    Dear Uncle John, Margie, Dave, Rick and families: we are devastated to lose such a wonderful Aunt.  We have such great memories of family get-togethers, at the pool or at the trailer, corn roasts, or visits. We even made Aunt Mary a softball fan, and she came out and cheered on the girls at their tournaments - she brought good luck with her! And her heart was so big, jumping in to care by phone or in person. Our love and condolences to all.
  • Apr 26, 2020

    Bob Denard
    John and family
    Sorry of Mary passing,my thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. 
  • May 3, 2020

    Rob and Judy Smart
    John and Family
    We are so sorry to hear about Mary. We have such fond memories of our time together as neighbors on Keewatin. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

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